Comments on: Can’t Marry You- You Are Drunk

By: Me Otherwise

Me Otherwise — Mon, 13 Jul 2015 06:47:45 +0000

hmmm… so much to ponder over… I really dont want to disoute which system is better… but I strongly advocate girls having to make their own decisions and mature enought to face whatever the consequences of it may come by…

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By: Lynn @ Smoke & Mirrors

Lynn @ Smoke & Mirrors — Sun, 12 Jul 2015 17:10:33 +0000

Such an interesting post. I have a good friend from India who calls me her “USA Mom.” She is very much younger than me, younger even than my own children. I was quite upset when she informed me that she had allowed her parents to arrange a marriage for her and not told me until after she was married. It has certainly NOT been a good match in many ways and she is dealing with the reality that she was totally unprepared and way too immature socially/interpersonally for such a relationship. And she refuses to consider ending the relationship, claiming she will stick with tradition. It is scary for me, because there is only so much I can do, especially when we’re now located 2,000+ miles away from each other. However, I will never forget one of the very first conversations she and I had regarding dating and marriage–after I had berated the whole idea of “arranged marriage,” she impertinently commented, “Yeah, because your system works so much better in the long-term…” I had to smile at that, considering I ended my first marriage after many years of unhappiness, though at least I realized I did have a choice and used it to help myself, something she claims she will never even consider… It worries me. I agree in your appreciation of females standing up for themselves! You go, girls!! :)

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By: Vinitha

Vinitha — Sat, 11 Jul 2015 15:54:23 +0000

It is good that at least some girls are not afraid to call it off when they stumble upon the truth. It will be great when boys will learn to treat girls as equals. It will be precious when parents realize that boys or girls, it doesn’t matter and they should be treated equally and only equally.

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By: Me Otherwise

Me Otherwise — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 05:13:03 +0000

HAhaha thats interesting…..

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By: the bespectacled mother

the bespectacled mother — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 04:49:58 +0000

I like such stories where the female gender calls the shots. Ramya, you do a wonderful work of bringing them out on the front burner.A close relative of mine is on a bride hunting spree (i know its a wrong word but that’s the way their process is turning out to be) for their son and the girls are discussing and negotiating whether the would-be groom be ready to share the cooking part with his wife or what are his views on seeking dowry among other issues. I have no sympathies to offer to my relatives because i am silently rejoicing about the power the girls are exercising today.

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By: Me Otherwise

Me Otherwise — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 15:42:44 +0000

Yes Lata… these sure are positive changes

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By: Me Otherwise

Me Otherwise — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 15:42:22 +0000

Glad you enjoyed it!!

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By: lifeconfusions

lifeconfusions — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 12:34:08 +0000

This was such an interesting article! Thoroughly enjoyed it :)

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By: Lata Sunil

Lata Sunil — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 09:35:35 +0000

thankfully, these changes are happening and the girl is saved from a long suffering life in the name of honour and prestige. Way to go girls!

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